If the question "Do you like anal sex? Over the past decade, anal sex —or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo, perhaps because butts have taken on an entirely new status thanks, Kardashians or because society has become more sex-positive overall yay! But guess what? Not everyone has to! For some women, anal is the cherry on top of a sexual sundae: a little extra treat that elevates something that was already delicious on its own duh, talking about sex here.
Pop quiz! Lots of women who've been there and done that say it's a welcome addition to their sexual repertoire. But just like you must walk before you can run, you must have some sort of anal foreplay before you go for the full monty of anal sex. Or, you know, you can do butt play and leave it at that forever, because it's your booty and you make the rules. You hopefully already know the basics: ALWAYS use lube, never put something that was in your butt in your mouth or vagina, and butt plugs are your friend.
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What do Lady Gaga, platform sneakers, and anal sex have in common? They're all having a moment. This morning, in the span of one hour, Truffle Butter played at my fave coffee shop if you don't know what that has to do with anal, two words: Urban Dictionary , an email about the launch of a new butt plug popped into my inbox, and my pal texted to ask which position—missionary or doggy—was a better position for first-time anal sex.
Emma Kaywin, a Brooklyn-based sexual health writer and activist, is here to calm your nerves and answer your questions. Q: My boyfriend has been talking to me about trying anal sex. I'm open to the idea, but I want to know more about it first. Like, do we need to use a condom if we're monogamous, or can I get infections if I don't? How can I make sure it doesn't hurt?